I want to share a blog from a pastor’s wife on a subject we can all relate with, and that is balancing ministry and family.
It is natural to have times when life and ministry leaves you more spent than what is best. When my husband has those moments, I should kick into overdrive and serve him by picking up the slack and ministering to him in a special way (after all, he has given of himself to the flock all day).
Next week I may be the one that is “spent” and will need him to help me by giving me a little more grace and help. If, however, this has become the norm and the way of life for your husband . . . he needs to make some changes for the health of all of you!
If this is the situation with your husband—he gives all of his energy, emotions, words, etc. at church and has nothing left for you and your kids—then here are a couple of steps I would take to effect change:
1. Pray for your man! He does not need your nagging or complaining, but he does need your prayers for a change of heart and direction—only God can do this.
2. Look for a good time to share your honest concerns with him. Pick a time when he is free from demands/distractions/kids/fatigue/etc. or you may even want to schedule a time with him and give him warning that you want to have a serious talk. Start the conversation by telling him how much you love him and want to see him functioning in a healthy manner for himself and for your marriage and family. Let the initial focus be on him and how you want what is best for him. Then express how you believe that he will enjoy his marriage and family more if he is able to do a few things differently – let him know that you want to be his reward at the end of the day…not just another task to do or resent. Avoid being condescending, accusatory or irrational in anyway. Be specific and avoid general statements. Ask God to help you with this important conversation.
3. Suggest that he or the both of you get an appointment with Care for Pastors to just rejuvenate and get an outside perspective on how you as a couple can better walk through life and ministry in a manner that will be mutually satisfying and will bring longevity to your marriage and ministry
— Suzy
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