By Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

    What to Do When Wounded by God’s People

    Monday, January 25, 2016

    Last week in our weekly blog, we talked about being treated unfairly and so today I want to recommend a book that I have recommended before, but think it is so important for every pastor and spouse to have that I am going to recommend it again.

    The book is Wounded by God’s People by Anne Graham Lotz. All of us in ministry have been hurt by God’s people at one time or another, or we have been the one that has hurt someone. We can all benefit from this resource and ask God to do the healing in our lives.

    Here is a short description of the book:

    Everyone has been wounded…hurt…neglected…by others. But as Anne Graham Lotz looks back on her life, the sad truth is that her most painful wounds were inflicted by religious people—God’s people. People she had grown to love and to trust. But people whose words and behavior were inconsistent with what they said they believed. Anne not only understands the wounded, she also understands how easy it is for the wounded to become wounders themselves.

    In this book, Anne breaks the silence of the wounded and the wounders, in order to break the cycle of pain. Drawing on the biblical story of Hagar, Anne leads those who have been hurt by God’s people on a path of discovering the healing power of God’s redemptive love.

    This book is a love story…yours!

    I pray you will purchase this book if you haven’t already, and allow God to begin a healing in your life. There are many times that we think we have dealt with hurts when in actuality we haven’t and we are doing ministry injured. It is hard to do anything when we are injured, so don’t go through life playing hurt because you will not live a fulfilled life and you most likely will end up causing hurt.

    I heard a dear pastor friend use this quote many times: “Hurt people, hurt people; but healed people, heal people.” There is a sermon in that quote.



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