By Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

    Treated Unfairly

    Monday, January 18, 2016

    Do you ever feel that life is just not fair or that ministry is just not fair? I dare say we have all felt that way at some point in our ministry if we have been a pastor’s wife any length of time. Ministry can be hurtful and messy because we are dealing with sinful people, just like ourselves. The hurt and pain can become unbearable at times, but I want to encourage you when going through those times, let God fill your cup spiritually and don’t focus on the unfairness.

    My devotion from “Jesus Calling” addressed this issue some time back and I want to share it with you today and pray it will speak to your heart.

    “Do not expect to be treated fairly in this life. People will say and do hurtful things to you, things that you don’t deserve. When someone mistreats you, try to view it as an opportunity to grow in grace. See how quickly you can forgive the one who has wounded you. Don’t be concerned about setting the record straight. Instead of obsessing about other people’s opinions of you, keep your focus on Me. Ultimately, it is My view of you that counts.

    As you concentrate on relating to Me, remember that I have clothed you in My righteousness and holiness. I see you attired in these radiant garments, which I bought for you with My blood. This also is not fair; it is pure gift. When others treat you unfairly, remember that My ways with you are much better than fair. My ways are Peace and Love, which I have poured out into your heart by My Spirit.”

    I am so thankful God loves me no matter what happens or how I feel and that He paid the ultimate price, which was not fair. So let’s remember that the next time we feel, “Life or ministry is not fair” and we are having a pity party, He wants us to concentrate on Him.



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