I would like to share a blog I recently came across. I believe many of you, like me, will be able to relate to it
I’m a people pleaser.
A yes girl.
Conflict makes my stomach turn, my muscles tense, and my heart beat fast.
I’m plagued by overthinking, over-analyzing, and worrying.
I’m not a small talker. I want to KNOW you. I want to know your hurts, so I can help dress your wounds.
I desire to help carry all your burdens.
I want others to feel happy, comfortable, and comforted.
I’m able to pick up on your mood and if you’re having a bad day, faster than a toddler throwing a tantrum over spilled milk.
But can I be honest about it?
It’s a lot of work, all this people pleasing. Sometimes I think it would be a whole lot easier if my heart didn’t have this ache to please.
Because usually, after all my people pleasing and worrying, I put my own needs last.
I often don’t voice my thoughts when my opinion is different than yours.
I’m indecisive, because I don’t want my decision to dampen your desires.
I’m often too afraid to chase my dreams if my dreams are a little “different.” Because I’m afraid I’ll let you and your expectation of me down.
Sometimes, I notice when everyone else around me is hurting, but I hardly pay any attention to when I’m hurting.
But here’s the thing. The beautiful thing.
God doesn’t call us to live a comfortable life, walking on eggshells and pleasing everyone we meet. He calls us to love. That’s our biggest job.
And sometimes love looks a lot like disagreeing. It looks like firmly standing on our solid ground of morals backed up by His truth. It’s courageous, this love.
It means caring enough about our emotions that we take the time to nurture our souls.
It means caring enough about {their} emotions to ask the tough and uncomfortable questions.
It sometimes looks like confrontation…. because we are required to lovingly “talk it out” with someone who hurt us, or when we hurt them. It would be easier to gossip, but God prefers talking it out, face to face.
It means fiercely using our God-given talents, even if it makes others uncomfortable. Even if they don’t approve. Even if they don’t support what you’re doing.
So fellow people pleasers, know that your desire to love isn’t bad.
But it is not His desire for you to sacrifice yourself and your morals in the false name of love. Because that’s just not love, plain and simple.
God doesn’t call us to live a comfortable people-pleasing life. He calls us to live a life that only pleases Him.
Messy Footprints by Kaleigh Christensen
I pray Kaleigh’s blog will be a resource for you to use.
