By Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

Posted by Rodetta Cook

    Stop Trying to Work Things Out on Your Own

    Monday, August 03, 2015

    Do you ever find yourself working hard to work things out on your own instead of trusting God to work it out? I dare say we have all found ourselves doing that at some point in our life. I think we as women especially try to do that because we are always looking at the “big picture” and want to know all the details. Usually what ends up happening is we mess it all up!

    God doesn’t always reveal the details to us and we need to learn to trust Him with situations knowing He has a plan. One of my favorite devotions a few months ago hit me right between the eyes with this topic and I pray it will be a blessing to you as it was to me.

    Stop trying to work things out before their times have come. Accept the limitations of living one day at a time. When something comes to your attention, ask Me whether or not it is part of today’s agenda. If it isn’t, release it into My care and go on about today’s duties. When you follow this practice, there will be a beautiful simplicity about your life: a time for everything, and everything in its time.

    A life lived close to Me is not complicated or cluttered. When your focus is on My Presence, many things that once troubled you lose their power over you. Though the world around you is messy and confusing, remember that I have overcome the world. I have told you these things so that in Me you may have Peace.

    Ouch! That one really hits home, because I am not good at living one day at a time. I am working on allowing Him to help me in this area because I want to “let go” and “let God” in every area of my life.

    I pray you are working on this area in your life too!

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    1. John

      Sometimes part of trusting God to work it out involves going to get some therapy. Pastors often have unresolved family of origin issues that are not going to be worked out by prayer and Bible study or even fasting alone.

    2. Kathryn

      As I prepare to send my minister husband off to our new home & new church 1100 miles away next week, AND prepare to send our youngest 400 miles off to college the following week, while waiting for our home to sell and preparing to move all of our belongings and myself in mid-September, I definitely needed this today. Thank you.

      • Rodetta Cook


        praying for you as you are working through all the tranistions and selling your home. thanks for sharing.



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