By Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

    Stop Trying to Figure God Out

    Monday, April 06, 2020

    We as pastors’ wives are just as human as the next woman walking in the door. We don’t have all the answers and we doubt and question just like any other woman. I pray what Christy, a pastor’s wife, shares today will bless you and cause you to stop and reevaluate.

    I do not know why God does what He does or why He allows things to happen the way they do. All I know is He is in control. He gives, He takes, He blesses, He sustains, He corrects and He alone has the right to do whatever He pleases. Who are we to question the One who made it all? The One who gives it all? The One who owns it all?

    Sometimes we get angry because we do not understand God and His big plan. Sometimes we wonder why some have and some have not. If I have learned one thing I have certainly learned this; we as humans cannot wrap our minds around God Almighty and why He does what He does. We cannot. Oh, we can guess and wonder all day long, but unless God chooses to reveal to an individual the reason He does or does not do something, we are wasting our time. And I have wasted lots of time guessing and trying to understand the ways of God. When you spend your time stuck here asking, “Why God, why?” You know what happens? You become frustrated, confused, in turmoil, bitter and angry. God doesn’t want that. No. He wants to give us comfort and peace. He wants us to trust Him without understanding why. He longs for us to cast it all to Him so He can take over, sustain us and walk with us through the pain.

    Stop trying to figure everything out. You can’t. Instead tell God, “I don’t understand why this has happened. I don’t know why You allowed this, Father God. But I believe, one day all my whys will be answered and until then I’m going to trust that You know what’s best.” Can we do that? We need to. Because we need God. Our help comes from Him.  God loves us, no matter what, and He wants us to trust Him, no matter what.

    Proverbs 3:5-6Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understandingIn all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

    – Christy

    Life can become overwhelming at times and many times we don’t help the situation by trying to figure everything out. Let’s learn to just lean on Him and His promises!



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