Posted by Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

Posted by Rodetta Cook

    Self-Centered or God-Centered

    Monday, July 17, 2023

    Our role as pastors’ wives is such a unique role that many times we can get off track and get caught up in the “doing” of ministry, we allow self-centeredness to creep in and we aren’t staying God-centered.

    I have this taped in the back of my Bible and wanted to share it with you today:


    • Life focused on self.
    • Proud of self and self-accomplishments.
    • Self-confidence.
    • Depending on self and one’s own abilities.
    • Affirming self.
    • Seeking to be acceptable to the world and its ways.
    • Looking at circumstances from a human perspective.


    • Confidence in God.
    • Dependence on God and His ability and provision.
    • Life focused on God and His activity.
    • Humble before God.
    • Denying self.
    • Seeking first the kingdom of God and His righteousness.
    • Seeking God’s perspective in every circumstance.

    Yes, even Pastors’ wives can fall into the self-centered living. We are human, and at times we fall into this way of living more than we would like to admit. I wanted to hold this in front of you today and pray that if you are out of balance or have gotten caught up in the “doing” of ministry instead of “being” in God’s presence and being God-centered, that you will allow Him to get you back on track.

    We are here to walk this ministry journey with you! Please let us know how we can help.

    Help us continue providing resources of care for pastors and their families.


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