By Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

By Rodetta Cook

Topics: For Pastors' Wives · Identity

    Our Problems Do Not Define Us

    February 06, 2017
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    I pray you had an awesome weekend and God did some amazing things at your church this past weekend.

    I read a short devotional from Holly Gerth a few months ago that I thought was worth sharing and I pray it speaks to your heart:

    “Whatever you’re facing today, it’s not your identity. Don’t let the enemy tell you otherwise.

    You may be in a place of depression. But that is not who you are. You are a beloved daughter.

    You may be in a place of weariness. But that is not who you are. You are a mighty warrior.

    You may be in a place of loneliness. But that is not who you are. You are a woman who belongs.

    How do you need to fill in that blank today?

    I may be in a place of ______________. But that is not who I am. I am ______________.

    Take a moment to take hold of the truth your heart needs.”

    Our problems refine us but they don’t define us.

    Don’t allow the enemy or circumstances to rob you of who you are in Christ. We are here to help; please allow us to come alongside you in any way possible.

    About the Author

    Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.
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