By Patti Johnson

Patti has been volunteering with Care for Pastors with The Confidante for Pastors’ Wives for 7 years after she and her husband received counsel from Care for Pastors as a way to give back to the ministry. She joined the Care for Pastors staff in January 2020. Patti is one of the administrators of The Confidante Private Facebook group for pastors' wives and is a regular contributor to weekly blogs. She loves to use her gifts and abilities to support the needs of the ministry. Patti has been married to her Pastor husband Keith for 36 years. They have 3 adult children who all to their delight live in Florida.

    Our 2023 Resource Blogs Review

    Monday, December 25, 2023

    As we are coming to the end of 2023, we like to put our resource recommendations for the year in one document for you to have easy access to. We have included the link to the original blog so you can read it in its entirety. I pray these resources will be of a great benefit to you as they have been to us.

    January 30, 2023
    Good Boundaries and Goodbyes
    by Lysa Terkeurst

    Have you ever experienced a relationship that you felt was toxic, but you didn’t know what to do about it? Have you ever tried to set boundaries, but it seems like you can never keep them? Do you allow the other person who you may have set boundaries with, to manipulate you and make you feel guilty? These questions could go on and go, because we have all been there and experienced these things at some point. Boundaries are not un-Christian, and they are necessary for our well-being.

    This is why I want to recommend an excellent book on this topic and that is Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa Terkeurst. I have always loved Lysa’s books, but I think this may be one of my favorites because she does such a great job, not only sharing some of her own personal experience, but quotes from her counselor and of course scripture to back it up.

    February 27, 2023
    Seasons of a Woman’s Life
     by Lois Evans

    Who doesn’t like the time when seasons change? Even subtle changes in seasons bring new life, new adventure, new experiences. Warm and breezy to crisp and cold. Hot and muggy to cool and clear. Icy and frigid to new life blooming in colors all around.

    So, it is in life. Seasons come and go. Seasons change. Bringing new adventure, experiences, and challenges.

    Lois Evans, in her book “Seasons of a Woman’s Life” sheds light on the ever-changing spiritual season changes in a woman’s life. Times of seed planting, times of waiting, times of harvesting and times of reemerging in the newness of yet another season. 

    March 27, 2023
    I Hear His Whispers for Women
    by Brian Simmons with Sara Perry

    A friend of mine recently shared a devotional book with me that I absolutely love and I always like to share those with others. The title is “I Hear His Whispers for Women” by Brian Simmons with Sara Perry.

    Here is just a portion of one of the daily devotions that I believe will bless you:

     “As my child, you know my voice. You have recognized my still, sure voice in the quiet of your soul. My words, laced in love, have led you further into freedom every step of the way. Do you forget that I am a good Father? I am not silent, daughter. Lean into my loving heart and hear the words of life that fill you with the courage you need. My guidance is always with your benefit in mind. If you choose to listen, you will not be disappointed.”

    Isaiah 30:21 (Passion Translation) “When you turn to the right or turn to the left, you will hear his voice behind you to guide you, saying, “This is the right path; follow it.” 

    April 24, 2023
    Not Forsaken by Pastor Louis Giglio

    From the back cover: In Not Forsaken, Pastor Louis Giglio invites us to understand the character of God in a life-changing way:  as a perfect Father who wants you to live under the waterfall of His blessing. You see, God is not the bigger version of your earthly dad. And He’s inviting you to walk in freedom as His loved son or daughter.

    May 29, 2023
    Didn’t See It Coming by Carey Nieuwhof

    How many times have you thought or said, “If only I had seen that coming?” Carey Nieuwhof in his book “Didn’t See It Coming” asked that question himself and now in this book answers how you can prepare yourself for some things by paying attention.

    His writing style is engaging and conversational. Almost as if you are across the table from him and talking through real life issues in real time. You may even find yourself asking “How did he know that’s where I am RIGHT NOW?”

    June 26, 2023
    Called On Purpose by Christy Kirtlan

    I would like to recommend a devotional today written by one of our Confidante admins, Christy Kirtlan, “Called on Purpose.”

    These two-minute devotionals will be an encouragement to you as well some humor added for your day.

    July 31, 2023
    Med Diet by Christy Kirtlan

    We at the Confidante love to provide resources for you to help you grow in your spiritual growth and assist you in some way as wives of pastors.

    This will be a bit different resource. It’s more about helping the pastor’s health.

    August 28, 2023
    Don’t Give Your Enemy a Seat at Your Table by Louie Giglio

    I would like to recommend a book to you today that I found very helpful. How many times do we believe the enemy’s lies and allow him to sit at our table. How many times have we invited the enemy to sit with us at the table God prepared for us and Him? I would say way too many times!

    I love where in the first chapter of the book Louie Giglio shares a difficult time he was having in ministry, and he reached out to a friend to tell him what was happening and how wrong he was being treated. Louie was wanting empathy and confirmation from this friend, but instead the friend wrote back with these nine words: “Don’t give the enemy a seat at your table.” Louie thought, that’s all you have to say to this situation? Then Louie unpacks this statement in the book and it is so enlightening.

    September 25, 2023
    Raised to Stay by Natalie Runion

    We live in a very transient world these days. It seems like changing addresses, changing jobs, changing schools, changing careers, and changing churches are all a part of the current culture.

    But what about staying? Or not going? Or not quitting when the going gets tough?

    Natalie Runion asks and answers some of those questions in her book “Raised to Stay.”

    She boldly acknowledges the hurt and discouragement that come from the ministry life and from church. Even God’s people. But she also presents some scripture truths that although there are times to seek God in a movement towards a different place of ministry, there are also times that God guides us to stay in the midst of difficult times. Why would He do that?

    One bolded statement early in the pages of the book says this, “We can’t quit because if we quit, we will never see God work it all out for our good. We won’t get to see that beauty from ashes.”

    October 30, 2023
    Mental Health: A Darkness Problem

    Too many times in today’s world, the church is hiding from talking about and dealing with the topic “Mental Health.” It is something our leaders need to be doing a better job of addressing and realizing even pastoral families can struggle in this area.

    We recently got permission to use a blog that a pastor’s wife had posted on her Facebook page written by a friend of hers and is spot on, and I felt it needed to be shared.

    November 27,2023
    Another Gospel? by Alisa Childers

    Alisa Childers is an author, speaker and life-long student of the Bible who desires to equip Christians to identify the core beliefs of historic Christianity, discern its counterfeits and proclaim the gospel with clarity, kindness, and truth. She has written two books that I’ve read that have really helped me to identify the core beliefs of the Bible and speak its Truth to others:  one is “Another Gospel?” and the second is “Living Your Truth and Other Lies.” I will share with you my thoughts on my most recent read “Another Gospel?”

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