By Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

    Love Your Husband

    Monday, February 13, 2017

    I read the following story not long ago and thought it would be very appropriate for this Valentines week. I pray you are thanking God for your husband and asking Him how you can be a better ministry partner.

    A woman went to visit a wise counselor and told him she no longer loved her husband and was thinking of getting a separation. The wise man listened to her, looked her in the eyes, and only said two words to her: “Love him.” Then he kept quiet.

    “But I don’t have feelings for him anymore.”

    “Love him,” the wise man said again. And standing there in front of the distressed woman, after another prolonged silence, he added the following: “Love is a decision, not a feeling; love is dedication and surrender. To love is a verb, and the fruit of that action is love. Love is an exercise in gardening: you tear out what causes damage, you prepare the ground, you sow, then you are patient as you water and take care of it. Be prepared because there will be plagues, droughts, or excessive rain, but you don’t give up on your garden because of them. Love your husband: that is accept him, value him, respect him, give him your affection, admire him and understand him. That is everything – love him.”

    Make sure you and your husband are balancing marriage and ministry. Make time for one another no matter how crazy life gets. We all make time to do the things that are important, so make spending time with one another a priority in your life!

    No matter where you are in your relationship with your husband, ask God to help you be the wife He wants you to be. If you find yourself in a place you never thought possible and you are alone, ask God to help you be the woman He wants you to be.

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