By Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

    Love and Respect

    Monday, February 11, 2019

    Last week our blog was on the subject of the pastor’s marriage and how we are seeing two trends in the couples we deal with here at Care for Pastors as follows:

    1. The husband treats the wife as a doormat.
    2.  The wife doesn’t appreciate her husband.

    Because of these disturbing trends we are seeing I want to recommend a book for you and your husband and would suggest you get the workbook that goes with it and the two of you go through it together. Even if you think you marriage is great and you don’t deal with either of these two areas mentioned, it is a great book for every couple.  The book is Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and below is a description.

    A Simple Message

    A wife has one driving need – to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need – to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy.

    When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically.

    A Message That Works

    Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his wife, Sarah, have already taken the Love and Respect message across America and are changing the way couples talk to, think about, and treat each other.

    What do you want for your marriage? Want some peace? Want to feel close? Want to feel valued? Want to experience marriage the way God intended? Then why not try some Love and Respect.

    Discover the Single Greatest Secret to a Successful Marriage

    Psychological studies affirm it, and the Bible has been saying it for ages. Cracking the communication code between husband and wife involves understanding one thing: that unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It’s the secret to marriage that every couple seeks, and yet few couples ever find.

    Using Dr. Eggerichs’ breakthrough techniques, couples are achieving a brand new level of intimacy and learning how to:

    • Stop the Crazy Cycle of conflict
    • Initiate the Energizing Cycle of change
    • Enjoy the Rewarded Cycle of new passion

    And if you’ll take his biblically based counsel to heart, your marriage could be next!

    This book and workbook could change your life and your marriage. Dr. Eggerichs was a pastor prior to devoting himself full-time to building healthy marriages and launching Love and Respect Conferences. He understands the stress of marriage in ministry.

    Don’t let your marriage suffer, invest in it and do the hard work. We are here to help on your journey in any way we can.



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