By Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

    Little Girl, You Don’t Have To Take Your Clothes Off

    Monday, July 03, 2023

    Today’s subject is one that Moms need to read and share with their girls “Little Girl You Don’t Have to Take Your Clothes Off.” The following blog was written by a PK (pastor’s kid) who is now an adult and I felt it was a blog that we could all benefit from, whether you have children still at home or grandchildren to share this with. Or maybe you are a Youth Pastor’s wife and this would be a great resource for you to have to share with your teen girls.

    Dear little girl,

    I know what this world tells you is fulfilling. Being sexy and shocking and scandalous. It gets everyone’s attention. It turns heads. It drops jaws. Everywhere you look, the world is pulling you to drop your guard, to lower your standards, to give up yourself. Dresses are getting shorter, tops are getting lower, and the world tells you it doesn’t really matter. No one is getting hurt, and everyone is dressing this way anyway. The only problem is someone is getting hurt. Someone is affected every day by the way you are dressing…..and it’s not the men around you that I’m talking about.

    It’s you.

    You are so loved. You are so special. You are so beautiful and wonderfully made. Every part of you from your heart to your head to your toes. You have amazing worth. But you’re believing the lies. You’re letting the Kim Kardashian mentality into your heart, and it’s going to leave you as empty as it has left her, never satisfied, always grasping for more, and ever-twisting what once was beautiful and pure into an ugly monster cheapened by accessibility.

    You and your body were never meant to be freely clicked and liked and zoomed and favorited.

    Your body is meant to be presented to Jesus Christ to be used for his service. Your hands are meant to give, your feet meant to take you to the ends of the world to share the gospel, your arms to take in the lost world. He gave you this body, and while it is beautiful, it is wholly His. Everything He creates is beautiful. The only problem is that this world takes beauty and twists it into sexuality.

    I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. Romans 12:1 (KJV)

    You don’t have to sexualize yourself to be beautiful. That is not God’s definition of beauty. God’s definition of beauty is a heart after his kingdom. Eyes that look toward heaven and around for someone to serve. A heart that longs to see more of Jesus Christ in the world around it. A spirit that points people to Him, and a body given to be used for those kingdom purposes, not to fulfill your desire for worth or attention.

    I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. Psalms 139:14 (KJV)

    It breaks my heart to see girls that I know and love lower their standards because of the pressure and pull of the world on their hearts. Sure, they may get the attention they are looking for, but at what cost to themselves?

    What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 1 Corinthians 6:19

    I don’t care who you’ve been or what you’ve done, you have infinite worth in the eyes of God. You can be washed in his blood and covered in grace. You can be clothed in righteousness, and your eyes can be opened to the sacredness of salvation and what it means for you now. It means that you are a child of the King, a beautiful daughter, treasured and precious, and meant only for the eyes of God, and the eyes of your husband.

    But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light. 1 Peter 2:9

    You want role models? Don’t look at celebrities, or music artists, look at your pastor’s wife who has given her life up to serve your church. Look at the faithful women in your life who work, and raise their families, and serve their husbands in grace and godliness. Look at your friends who strive to know God better and encourage those around them. Choose godly women in your life who know what it means to be surrendered, and know the joy that comes from a life given to Christ. Model your life after true women and daughters of God not seeking after the applause of the world, but the applause of her heavenly Father.

    You don’t have to take your clothes off. Don’t sell yourself so cheaply when CHRIST has made you so very valuable. You don’t have to buy into the lies of the world. You don’t have to believe that your naked body equals your worth. You don’t have to give yourself away and get nothing in return. You can give your heart, mind and body solely to God, and get earth and heaven, peace and joy, contentment and love. Don’t let anyone tell you differently.

    I pray what Lauren shared with us in this blog will sink into hearts and help young ladies know they don’t have to believe the lies!

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