By Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

    It’s Okay Not to Be Okay

    Monday, June 29, 2020

    I’m sure I am not the only pastor’s wife that says, “I’m Okay,” when I’m really not okay. We think we have to be okay all the time and can get so caught up in wearing a mask when in reality we need to realize it is okay not to be okay.

    One of my favorite speakers and authors is Shelia Walsh. In her book It’s Okay Not to Be Okay I found great comfort and freedom in realizing that it is okay not to be okay. I want to recommend this book to you and I know it will be a blessing.

    Here is an excerpt from the book and an endorsement:

    We’ve all experienced that moment when we wish we could start all over again. Failed marriages, lost friends, addictions, lost jobs. This is not the life we imagined. Yesterday can leave us stuck, sad, shamed, scared, and searching. Sheila wants you to face the pain head-on and then start again, from right where you are.

    In It’s Okay Not to Be Okay, she helps you overcome the same old rut of struggles and pain by changing the way you think about God, yourself, and your everyday life. She shares practical, doable, daily strategies that will help you move forward one step at a time, knowing God will never let you down.

    It’s never too late to start again…and there is healing and freedom in just taking the first step.

    “A friend once told me that people aren’t interested in what we got right nearly as much as how we’ve experienced divine redemption when we got it wrong. Sheila is always refreshingly transparent about where she’s gotten it wrong so as to make Jesus the sole hero of her story. It’s Okay Not to Be Okay is a deeply encouraging–quite possibly transformative–tome for stumbling saints!” — Lisa Harper

    No matter what your disappointments and struggles are, I believe you will benefit from this book as you allow God to put His finger on some things and you begin to look at your life a little differently.

    We are here to help you on your ministry journey. Please let us know how we can help.



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