By Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

    I Feel so Inadequate

    Monday, December 10, 2018

    As we are in the midst of the busiest time of the year, do you ever feel inadequate? You may be ready to just throw up your hands and quit. You may be overwhelmed with family, ministry and just life in general. Don’t quit!

    I want to share a testimony from one of our pastors’ wives here with The Confidante that I know will speak to your heart as it did to mine.

    Honestly, I have felt inadequate in nearly every area of my life at one time or another. I have doubted myself, hated myself and even thrown up my hands and asked God to kill me…Shocked? Don’t be. Think it’s silly? Now maybe, but not at the time. The devil wants us to feel inadequate, like we don’t measure up. He wants us to lose it, lay down and die. Why? Well, we are not much use to the kingdom of God if he can take us out, right? And we are not much good for anything if he can make us believe we are unworthy and unable.

    I must admit, I don’t always respond well to my feelings. I am an emotional creature and that’s great when it leads me to love on the broken, unlovable and lonely, but not so great when those feelings and emotions drive me into a pit of despair, anxiety and fear. You see, when life gets hard (and it does) and I focus on me and my feelings then I am willingly being robbed. Robbed of peace, sleep, and even good health. Robbed of little joys, like a joke with my husband or precious time teaching and helping my kids. Robbed of serving God with a proper heart. Robbed of my very purpose.

    Can’t we see it’s all a trap from Satan? A trap to keep us from living for God. A trap to shut us down. A trap to make us give up. Don’t get caught in it! And if you are caught in it, you must turn your focus off yourself and your feelings and turn to the One who is able to handle it. Just as God gave Moses everything he needed for the task ahead to deliver the children of Israel, God does that for us today. He has not left us here to fend for ourselves. We have His Spirit to guide us, comfort us and renew us. Oh, how I want to be Spirit-led and not emotionally driven. And Just as God said, I am with you- He is with us through the hard stuff and He even rides those emotional roller coasters with us, every twist and loop. PTL!

    When you go through the deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you (Isaiah 43:2).

    – Christy

    Don’t let Satan set the trap for you. But instead, claim God’s promises and live a victorious life in Him.



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