By Ron Cook

Ron and his wife Rodetta have been married for 41 years. They have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. Ron ministers to hundreds of pastors annually through mentorship, counseling, and by phone. He has been a Pastor for 40 years and understands the stress of ministry, and wants to share his longevity in ministry with other pastors and help them finish well.

    I Don’t Love You Anymore

    Wednesday, November 18, 2015

    Volumes and volumes have been written about love in books, songs and poems. Love has been exalted to the highest level of human expression and emotions and been devalued to the lowest levels of humanity. Few expressions take love to a point of desperation than to hear from one you have loved these words, “I don’t love you anymore.”

    Somehow many Christians have chosen the secular world’s concept that love is a feeling, and if the feelings of being in love are not there then the seemingly logical conclusion would be, “I don’t love you anymore.” The vast majority of Christ followers still support the Biblical teaching that “God is Love.”  That is the very foundation of our relationship with Him and is based on the essence of His unconditional love. Out of a decision of His will, He chooses to love us when we are indifferent, angry, insolent, and downright rebellious. In other words, He loves in spite of what you do, because you are a child of God.

    When a spouse says, “I don’t love you anymore,” it flows out of love based on certain conditions and feelings; therefore, I have chosen to not love you. What if that was the formula God used to love us? What if His love for us was based on a certain criteria that we had to meet or conditions that we had to maintain to be recipients of His love? I am so glad my heavenly Father loves me in spite of what I do and because of who I am.

    When the safety of a spouse or child is involved, the health, safety and well-being of a family member are of the utmost consideration. But otherwise one should have a heart-to-heart with God before saying, “I don’t love you anymore.” Love as He loves.

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