Posted by Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

Posted by Rodetta Cook

Topics: For Pastors' Wives · Balance · Expectations · Loneliness

I Am Not a Perfect Person

Monday, February 13, 2023

You don’t have to be a pastor’s wife long to have the feeling that everyone expects you to be perfect. They forget we are humans just like they are. Recently a friend who is a pastor’s wife, shared the following and I felt it was too good to not share with you.

I am a pastor’s wife. I’m a child of Almighty God first, but being a pastor’s wife is a huge part of my life. I AM NOT A PERFECT PERSON. I’m not the well put together, beauty Queen hair and makeup, who has memorized the entire Bible, and can tell you whatever wisdom you need at any given moment. That’s great if that’s how God made you, but it’s not who I am. God showed me several years ago what my gifts are and I try to let Him use them as much as possible.

Here’s the thing, whoever your pastor’s wife is, she has her own gifts. Please let her be (and love her) who God wants her to be and not what you expect a pastor’s wife should be. We come in all shapes and forms, with all different gifts. And NONE of us are perfect. We are a work in progress just like you. Some are soft-spoken and others are the life of every fellowship. Some lead music and can play instruments, others like to sing in a choir where the crowd drowns us out but we are free to praise Jesus openly. Some are good with children, and others have a gift for the elderly.

The truth is we just want to do what God wants for our lives and be part of the family. Because that’s what He intended for a congregation to be, FAMILY. – Angie P.

I would dare say every pastor’s wife reading this blog would say, “I could have written that.” And I feel sure we all could have and maybe even added more to it, but we have all been there. Like Angie said, we want to do what God has called us to do and each pastor’s wife is different, so love us for being who God called us to be. Remember, we are here to walk with you on this unique journey of a pastor’s wife.