By Mandy K

By Mandy K

    Blessed Boundaries

    Monday, December 18, 2023

    So often I feel the need to do all and be all in ministry. And at this time of year, those feelings can escalate. “How could I possibly decline an invitation?” “What will they think if I don’t show up to the fellowship(s).”

    And while I may enjoy being invited and feeling included, these expectations can take over my ministry and my life. Setting boundaries is not always easy, but it is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves in ministry. When establishing Biblical boundaries, we must always turn to God and His Word. After all, He knows what is best for us. If you have or had small children, I’m sure you know how important it is to set boundaries for their safety. “Hold my hand when walking in a parking lot.” “Don’t touch that hot stove or pan.” “Don’t play too close to the road.” “Stay where mommy can see you!” These boundaries are set with love and care, seeking to protect from harm.

    Biblical boundaries are the same. God gives us discernment and guidance over what is best for our lives. But what if you’re already expected to do everything? Is it too late to set boundaries? Not at all! I was the YES girl for many years, so that’s what people expected from me…to say YES to whatever their want or need was. The transition took some time and patience, but by setting healthy boundaries, even late in the game, I was able to take back control over my life and enjoy ministry so much more.

    Matthew 6:8 beautifully reminds us, “For your Father knows what you need before you ask Him.” Our Heavenly Father already has the need met, the boundaries set, and the situation under control. Trust Him and seek His guidance. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

    There will be times when you will have to guard your heart, your time, and your family. And here’s the good news…you do not have to say YES to everything. You have permission to simply say, “no.” You could say something like this: “Thank you so much for inviting me. I’m not able to make it, but it means the world that you thought of me.”

    The days are naturally getting busier this time of year, which means there will be more to do. I encourage you to stay close to Your Heavenly Father and allow Him to guide you when to say YES and when to graciously decline. Boundaries are a good and necessary gift from Him.

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