By Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

    Am I a Perfectionist?

    Monday, September 14, 2015

    Am I the only one that deals with perfectionism? I doubt very seriously that I am. For those of you that have this in your life, I want to encourage you to work on that area. Although it can be a strength, it can also be a weakness. It becomes a weakness when we allow it to control us or possess us.

    As a perfectionist, it is easy to want to do everything ourselves because we know it will be done on time and done right. We need to learn to delegate. It took me years to learn that, but once I learned it, what a relief. And you know what, there are other people that do it on time and do it right. Maybe sometimes even better than I could have done it! We as perfectionists sometimes think our way is the only way to do things but many times that is so wrong.

    Have you ever caught yourself during church noticing your husband’s suit pocket is half in and half out, or his tie isn’t straight, or his hair is sticking up in the back? Then you become so distracted you don’t remember what the last point of the sermon was. Am I the only one that has happened to? I doubt it. It’s tough being a perfectionist!

    I want to encourage you to learn to balance your perfectionism before it causes you to burn out. If you are one of those people that could care less about being perfect, maybe you could use some balance too. Just saying!

    Life as a pastor’s wife can be very demanding and hard to balance in so many areas, but if we remain in our perfectionism we are adding a lot of unnecessary stress. I encourage you to work on this before it destroys you.

    We are here to help in any way we can. Please allow us to come alongside you in your ministry wherever you may need help.



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