Who hasn’t at some time in their life been caught up in a war of words? It happens so quickly, it may be with a total stranger or with a friend or family member. Words fly, tempers flare and you both walk away thankful that you will never see each other again, only to find yourself sitting beside each other in church. How funny. You don’t see the humor in it, sorry.
Disagreement with other Christians or family members can be absolutely devastating. Paul gives us a pattern that deserves our attention.
II Timothy 2:14: Keep reminding them of these things. Warn them before God against quarreling about words; it is of no value, and only ruins those who listen.
II Timothy 2:16: Avoid godless chatter, because those who indulge in it will become more and more ungodly.
II Timothy 2:23-26: Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.
There will always be disagreements, but as followers of Christ we should commit to disagree in an agreeable manner. Life would be much more agreeable if we would do this.