By Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

    5 Fashion “No No’s” as a Christian Woman

    Monday, April 08, 2024

    Do we as pastors’ wives maybe obsess over our fashion or outward appearance? I would say we all do. I spoke at a Women’s Retreat several years ago and their theme was “Fashion as a Christian.” I came across my notes recently and thought I could put it in a blog form that could be useful. I hope you glean something from this today.

    When we become Christians, we are told to “put off” the old man and his actions because we should reflect Christ. There are some things that are just fashion “no no’s” when it comes to walking and living like a Christian woman. Sometimes we have to check our closets and make sure we don’t have any of those last season or “old man” fashions in our wardrobes. Here are a few of those:


    None of us like to look overweight, but pride sure can bloat us up! It’s something that’s not very flattering to a Christian woman. In Proverbs 6, pride is listed among the things that God hates.

    These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him: A proud look….Proverbs 6:16, 17 KJV

    A high look, and a proud heart, and the plowing of the wicked, is sin. Proverbs 21:4 (KJV)


    We all like our faces to look nice without any noticeable blemishes, but anger has a way of affecting our faces. Anger can make our eyes and faces glow red. It is something that is not kept inside of us very well. Anger has a way of showing on the outside and ruining our appearance.

    An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in transgression. Proverbs 29:22 (KJV)

    Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil. Psalm 37:8 (KJV)


    Selfishness is one of those fashions we wear that makes us look so skinny that our bones show. When we wear selfishness, people can truly see what is inside of us.

    He that giveth unto the poor shall not lack: but he that hideth his eyes shall have many a curse. Proverbs 28:27 (KJV)

    We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Romans 15:1 (KJV)


    When we are whiners and complainers it makes us have a drippy appearance and a long face. It’s not something we want to wear and portray as Christians. Remember how the Israelites complained to Moses?

    And the people murmured against Moses, saying, What shall we drink? Exodus 15:24 (KJV)

    Do all things without murmuring and disputing: Philippians 2:14 (KJV)

    Bad Attitude

    Wearing a bad attitude is like wearing an unpleasant smelling perfume. It makes the air reek around us, and we leave a trail everywhere we go because our bad attitude can rub off onto other people. Bad attitudes are heart issues. The source usually goes back to our hearts and what we are focusing on. We have to get our hearts right in order to set our attitude right.

    Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. Psalm 51:10  (KJV)

    Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee. Isaiah 26:3 (KJV)

    I hope I can keep these fashion “no no’s” out of my wardrobe. Many of these can be easy for us as pastors’ wives to wear because of the ministry hurt we have experienced. But let’s be determined not to wear these five fashions, but to keep our heart in check with God and ask Him to help us grow through the pain, not just go through it. When we just go through it, these attitudes are all so easy to slip on and wear.

    We are here to walk with you on this ministry journey. Please let us know how we can help.



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